Brain Injury and Loving Yourself Again
Having a brain injury and loving yourself again can be quite a challenge when you barely know that new person you see in the mirror. I’ll say it again: Brain Injury and Loving Your New Self Again. “I’m not me anymore, but I’m still me.” So say the people who write about, speak or otherwise communicate about living a life riddled by traumatic brain injury.
A person with a TBI is six times more likely to have suicidal thoughts than someone without a brain injury. Some may not feel very lucky to be alive. Irritability is a common post-TBI occurrence, there is little known about what it is, what causes it.
What You Can Do About It
A happy life with a brain injury is filled with obstacles and don’t get me wrong, it is easy to let the struggle get you down. Although you can’t control what gets handed to you each day, you do have control over how it affects you and how you respond.
A positive outlook life comes from within. With a little self-reflection and being real with yourself, you can learn to react positively and improve your outlook on life.
- Identify negative thinking. You may be sabotaging yourself with negative thoughts and not even realize it. Begin by simply becoming aware of negative thoughts, and how they may be affecting you.
- Focus on positive thinking. With a little practice, you can learn to transform your thoughts. Start by following one simple rule: Don’t say anything about yourself that you wouldn’t say about a friend. Be gentle with yourself. Encourage yourself the way you would encourage a close friend.
- Make an effort to silence your “inner critic.” We all have that inner voice that tends to critique or question us. This voice may tell us that we are not good enough, not talented enough, or not worthy of your own love. These thoughts are meant to protect you from failure or heartbreak, but in truth, they do nothing but hold you back.
- Quit being a perfectionist. Life is never all or nothing. Demanding perfection means that we will always fall short. To overcome perfectionism, start by adjusting your standards.
- Do something outside of your comfort zone. Choose something you probably aren’t very good at, such as rock climbing, ping-pong, or painting. Give yourself permission to do this task poorly. Try finding joy in an activity at which you do not naturally excel. This will open you to new opportunities, help you let go of perfectionism, and ultimately improve your outlook on life.
While these numbered points may or may not do the trick for you, they are provided to you to get you thinking positively about yourself. So please take them for their face value, free advice on the web.
Mike is not a TBI doctor, he is just an advocate for traumatic brain injury. He offers his advice on brain injury from a survivors perspective and it is up to you to take or ignore his advice. Meaning he is not responsible in any way for your actions. He offers his advice for free on the world wide web and you should take it as such, cheap advice.